End the delusion

I'm going to rant about a song. I may not make sense I'm just writing it and not proofreading it.

Released in 2008 At the time of the writing of this post, 95,666,879 views, just a little shy from 100 million.

Hailed as a beautiful love song. Undying love. "If only I had someone in my life who loved me that much". Or maybe "that's totally me, I've been waiting all this time..."

When you sit down and read the lyrics and think about it though...really?

And you know, I get that it's a song man, it stretches things. No one is literally going to be a man who can't be moved like the character in the song.

The thing is, plenty of people would however think that if such a thing existed, it would be such a great thing. Plenty of people in their own heartbreak over things not working out would listen to this song and feel that it resonates so much with them, that they feel just like the man who can't be moved. And fighting the pain they say, yea, even though people don't get it, this is me, I'm sticking on.

I'm calling bullshit on that.

So let's get this straight. For some reason this didn't work out. The song didn't say whether it was unrequited love or if it was a break up. Doesn't matter, it didn't work out somehow.

So the character waits. In the song, he waits both physically and emotionally. In real life no one waits physically of course, but many wait emotionally. Believing that one day the girl will come back to him. Even though it clearly didn't work out.

Dude. It didn't work out. Which part of that do you not understand.
Got some words on cardboard got your picture in my hand, saying if you see this girl can you tell her where I am.
She probably doesn't want to know where you are you know, especially if you're doing creepy stuff like that.

I mean, it's pretty creepy isn't it the physical waiting thing. Imagine you're the girl, you rejected this guy because well, he's not for you. Then he keeps waiting. It makes you feel bad because the guy doesn't get it and keeps waiting, but seriously you aren't going to agree just because of his 'tenacity' in doing stupid things right?

So it's a lose-lose situation. The guy waits for nothing, the girl has to endure it. Not sure how loving that is doesn't seem like it to me.
Some try to hand me money they don't understand, I'm not, broke I'm just a broken hearted man, I know it makes no sense, but what else can I do? How can I move on when I'm still in love with you
Of course they don't understand, it's ridiculous. And you know it makes no sense, that's the thing isn't it. You probably know it doesn't make any sense, but you do it anyway because you can't let go. Bad news buddy, just because you can't move on doesn't mean anyone is obligated to come back to you.

So start learning to move on.
'Cause if one day you wake up and find that you're missing me, and your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I can be, thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we'd meet, and you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street.
This, is the epitome of wishful thinking. It's not happening. Stop wasting your time, your energy, your life. These 'what ifs', stop letting them hold you back. There will always be 'what ifs', and they'll just be excuses for what you know deep within to be the truth.
Gotta stand my ground even if it rains or snows, if she changes her mind this is the first place she will go.
The typical I CAN ENDURE THE PAIN FOR YOU. Sorry, more bad news buddy, no one asked you to. You think you're being great, demonstrating your undying love, but you're a fool.

In the Catcher in the Rye there is this quote: "The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of a mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one". It's a little different, yet similar. The immature person wants to be a martyr, thinking he's great for being able to endure all the pain for that one true love. Probably with the thought that somewhere along the way this 'love' will touch her heart.

But it doesn't work that way. This 'selfless' act is in reality deceptively selfish. It's so focused on what you can do to touch her heart. You think it's about her, but no it's all about you. You think she's a prize or achievement you get for working hard and displaying blind perseverance, but no, she's a person.
And maybe I'll get famous as man who can't be moved, and maybe you won't mean to but you'll see me on the news, and you'll come running to the corner. 'Cause you'll know it's just for you.
Delusions, delusions, delusions. Yea she's probably going to come running to the corner alright, and she'll tell you to stop this nonsense.

So why do you do all these? A grand display of love? Fantasies of being famous for your amazing love and the girl comes back to you. Sorry it doesn't work that way. That only happens in dramas.

For some it's not a grand show externally. Instead, they hold it in their heart, drawing out every bit of their feelings in the heartbreak, and quietly think that their love is so great. Some people 'enjoy' heartbreak. It sounds silly and they probably don't notice it themselves, but they live on it. Feeling those feelings. Rubbish.

I'm glad that the mv shows that the girl never came back. That's what happens in reality. And don't blame the girl for not coming back and not responding to the guy's 'love'. Fella's a psycho definitely not a good idea to go back.

Here's the thing. This guy has no respect.

He has no respect for the girl. She said no for a reason. She can make her own decisions. Her life is for her to choose and she didn't choose you. So respect that. By brute forcing on and trying to convince her through strange means that he really loves her, he's saying that she doesn't know better. He think's hes her knight in shining armour come to rescue her, but she doesn't need a knight. Especially not a pretend knight.

Not only that, he has no respect for himself. Sorry but this isn't a display of love, it's a display of neediness. He thinks in his head that she's missing out without him and that he's doing her a favour by sticking around, when in reality it is he who finds himself so desperately needing her. She doesn't need him, that's why she said no. And you know what, that's okay. So what if she doesn't need you. Get up, hold your head high. It happens. Just because this didn't work out doesn't mean life is over. It doesn't mean you're a loser each person is just unique and have difference preferences. Stop behaving like a puppy. Stop behaving like there is nothing else in your life. No I'm not talking about finding another girl to complete yourself, I'm talking about the other things in your life that you conveniently dropped to sit around and mope. Know your own worth. Respect yourself. The truth is, just as she doesn't need you, you don't need her for your life to be complete. It may not feel that way at the moment, but that is the truth.

If anything, continuation of such behaviour only serves to further alienate her from you. Definitely counter productive. So just stand up, and move on. Granted, moving on isn't as simple as flick of a finger, but start moving.

Don't be a silly twat. A man who can't be moved isn't romantic, it's a man who is deceiving himself and doesn't see his own worth. A real man moves.

Yea, I just wrote an entire rant picking on a song. I guess this is what happens when studying for exams fries your brains. Welp, nothing left to see here.